Last night, Dominic and I took Olivia for a walk through our little downtown area because we were trying to tire her out. We stopped to get some coffee, and kinda just let her lead the way. Olivia has a thing for ‘babies’. I write it like that because of the obvious reason that she, herself, is still a baby. Anyway, she stopped dead in her tracks to wave at another little baby that was sitting in her stroller. The mama of the little girl was so awesome and easy-going, and didn’t mind one bit that Olivia was a little too close to her little girl. Dominic and I sat and talked with the couple for a good ten minutes, about our babies, of course, and then we all went off on our merry ways.
As we were walking back to our car, Dominic said, “Babe, we really gotta start sealing some of these deals.” I looked at him, SO confused, and he followed up by explaining, “we need to find some couple-friends with babies!”
I mean, I obviously couldn’t agree more.
Don’t get me wrong, I have a very close-knit group of girlfriends, a sister, and even the rest of our family that always come over to hang out with us and Olivia. The problem with this is, none of them have babies. All of us girls being in our early 20s, I’m the one who’s been in the longest relationship, the only one who lives with their significant other, and the only one that is getting married anytime soon. (One of my girlfriends has a 4 year old, but she is always working, and sure I am going to be watching Odin on Fridays, but his mama will be at work, too.)
Basically, in the words of Paul Rudd, ‘I need some freakin friends.’
Mom friends, that is.
As a stay at home mom, I don’t get to interact much with the outside world. It’s kind of just Olivia and Me, all day everyday. While I don’t mind that (she is my bestie, after all!) I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have play dates with moms that have babies around the same age as Olivia.
Which brings me back to last night.
I keep thinking about what I should’ve said to ‘seal the deal’ and make a new mom friend.
The other mother, whose name was also ironically named Katie, was talking to me about a place called Monkey Business (to which I should’ve replied, “Oh how fun! When do you take your daughter? I’d love to bring Olivia there and check it out!”)
She also asked me if I lived in the area, and stated that she lived close as well (to which I should’ve replied, “It’s so family friendly over here, do you come to the downtown area often? I’d love to meet up for a little lunch date with our daughters!”)
And with that, I ask: Why is making mom friends basically the same thing as the dating game?! So nerve-wrecking, you think you have to watch what you say so you don’t blow it, and the thought of getting shot down…….oh god, it’s basically like you’re in high school all over again! You all know what I’m talking about, don’t act like I’m alone!
Or am I………….?
(I’d really like to think I’m not.)
I feel like I sound a little pathetic for asking this, but I would honestly love to know your opinions on this subject. For myself, and for other mamas that are asking themselves the same question: How do you approach a potential mom friend without sounding so forward? What do you say to ‘seal the deal’ (I really need to find another term for it!)? How do you even know if the other mama wants to be your mom-friend?
Can’t wait to hear what you all have to say!
PS. Next week I plan on covering the two glorious days we had over here in Chicago, but for now, I will leave you with one picture that pretty much sums up how we all felt about it: