These past few weeks have been such a whirlwind of sorts. In the midst of all of our wedding projects and items (I was so tempted to say objects to rhyme) sprawled out everywhere, our poor little house took a turn for the worst and is literally in shambles even now, a week and a half after our wedding.
Dominic and I are taking this chance to really DEEP clean our whole house, so every day we are kinda paying attention to one single room and giving it a nice cleanse. I kinda like it better that way though because we’ve been able to toss/donate and make better room for the things we have now.
Jeeze, I sound like a married woman.
Oh wait…..that’s because I am.
I’m married! And also, I cannot believe that we’ve already been married for a week and a few days. So many months of planning, and over planning, all for it to be done and over with -literally- in the blink of an eye.
But you guys….our wedding day.
It was so perfect.
It was magical, romantic, special, emotional. Everything we wanted it to be. I’m still gathering pictures, but I promise to have a post up with a bit more detail of the entire weekend by tomorrow morning.
Today, if you don’t mind. I’d just like to talk about what it’s like to be married. Remember when I said that I used to not want to get married? Like, ever? Well, here I am, happily eating my words.
Marriage is freakin awesome.
When I woke up the morning of our wedding, I was nervous. I was anxious, I was shaky, my stomach was killing me. I was a wreck. But when I woke up the morning after our wedding? I felt calm. I felt present…excited…happy…at ease…
I really do feel complete, and it’s such a great feeling. Call it a newlywed stage if you must (although we’ve been together for 6 years already), but I just feel plain old happy. Dominic is sexier (it’s probably just the ring on his finger ;) , our relationship is stronger, we’ve been making bigger plans, and I know it’s going to sound really cray cray BUT Olivia seems happier. She was going through a vicious little sour patch stage (more on that next week) and now all of a sudden she is happy, whining less, and back to her snuggly stage.
My favorite part, though, is how much closer I feel closer to Dominic. We fell in love, I felt close to him. We moved in together, I felt closer to him. We had a baby, and I honestly thought that I couldn’t feel any more close to him than watching the man I love, love our daughter. And then we got married, and it’s really a whole different ball game. The best kind of ball game. The Cubs winning the World Series kinda ball game.
(don’t worry I still love you, my Cubbies!)
Everyone kept telling me that after I was married, I wouldn’t feel any different. And I just don’t understand that. Don’t laugh at me, you guys, I know it’s only been a week and blah blah blah but I don’t care. I do feel different!
The other night, we sat on our bed, and over a bottle of wine, we wrote out our goals for our first year of marriage, and it was awesome. I loved sitting there, talking about our plans for the future, and I love that we both had a goal for our goals, and that was to make sure that we incorporated marriage into each and every goal we wrote out.
Dominic and I have always been really good about talking out our goals and dreams. Actually, we’ve always been really good about talking about everything in general, but talking about all of these things as a MARRIED couple….there’s just something about that term that makes everything a little more concrete.
Don’t worry, I am not naive to the fact that marriage is hard. I know it is. But so is being in a relationship, so is moving in together, so is parenting…..and guess what? All of the good times have definitely out-weighed the bad, and all of those hard times have proven to be worth it. Dominic and I have definitely had our fair share of fights, but it’s the lesson that comes after our fights that make it worth it. We never fight about the same thing twice (most of the time), and when we sit down to talk about an argument, the key is to really listen. Something we’re both really good at.
I feel like getting married was what I was supposed to do all along. Dominic always knew it (the one time he’ll probably ever be right ;) and I hate that I was ever even afraid to begin with. Also, I love calling Dominic my husband. It is one of the best things ever and hearing him refer to me as his wife just about makes me melt into a huge puddle of mush.
I have decided to start a series, so that when I want to talk about something marriage related, it’ll all be in one place. I am so looking forward to this next chapter in our lives and I cannot wait to continue to write about how I’m feeling about it all.
Oh and one more thing. How amazing were all of the ladies that guest posted for me last week?! I loved all of their advice, their stories, and them in general! :)
Okay, okay, enough about me, how have you all been? What have I missed? Can you do me a small favor and leave a link below in the comments to your favorite posts in the past few weeks so I can catch up?
Happy Hump Day!