When Olivia was small, I guess even before Olivia was born, Dominic and I talked about what kind of parents we wanted to be for her. We talked about our (different) views on parenting and kind of made a running “do and don’t” list. We were all, “I’m not gonna do this, I’m not gonna do that, I am sooooo not going to be that parent.”
There are obviously a lot of things on those lists that I’m currently doing anyway, but one that’s been sticking out lately?
I will NEVER bribe my child.
Oh, Katie and Dominic. Young, naive Katie and Dominic that have never had a child before in their lives.
For a few weeks, we were having a really hard time getting Olivia to eat anything. Then she let up, and started eating a lot of different things, and we really thought we had gotten over the hump of her being a picky eater. We were excited.
Up until recently, maybe three weeks (?), Olivia has gone back to her picky ways.
/\Her Faces when we try to get her to eat\/
One day for dinner, we had ground turkey. Olivia usually loves ground turkey and I knew that she hadn’t eaten much before that so I was very hopeful that she would be starving enough to clear her plate. Instead, she refused. And more than that, she started chucking pieces across the room. Not okay.
And then I said it:
“Do you want to go outside?”
“If you eat your turkey, we can go outside.”
And she looked at me with a smile, took a big piece of ground turkey, and popped it right into her mouth.
Admittedly, it quickly became a habit. My go-to. In my defense, I just wanted her to eat! I hate the thought of her not eating, especially while we’re sitting there, stuffing our faces. It just made me feel so awful.
And now I’m kinda stuck, because it usually works like a charm, but I don’t want her to get anymore used to it than she already is. We’ve tried making her stay in her high chair for long periods of time, giving her other options (another thing we never said we’d do), and letting her go to bed without eating anything at all. None of it has worked!
I’ve been trying to make her different, healthier options for the foods she does like to eat, but even those have been a battle lately.
So I leave you with two questions for this gorgeous Thursday: what strategies have worked for your picky eaters, or even the ones that usually aren’t picky, but were/are going through a refusal stage? And also, what things did you say you’d never do as parents, and are now (quietly) sitting there, eating your words?