Here we are, almost three weeks later, and I am finally sitting down to write a -real choppy- update about Olivia’s potty training process.
Sorry about that.
Olivia is officially house potty trained. Well, while she’s awake anyway. We still put her in pull-ups at night (we refer to them as panties when we’re talking to her though), and before we put her to bed, we try to explain to her that she still shouldn’t go potty in her panties. Of course she still does, but we want it to be embedded in her head that she shouldn’t. She just started telling us sometime last week when she has to go but really prefers to just go on her own when she feels it coming, so it was hard for us to imagine her going potty in the middle of the night while she was still in her crib. For that reason, we finally put up her big girl bed and now we just have to figure out a way to go about that as smoothly (I use that word lightly) as possible.
The first week of potty training was obviously the most frustrating. Just when we thought she was getting the hang of it, she’d have an accident and it took a lot of patience, a lot of consistency and a lot of “Olivia, you can’t go pee pee on the floor/in your panties, only in the potty!”.
When we finally added underwear on the 5th day was when it seemed like she was never gonna get it, honestly. I think she kinda felt the security of a diaper when she wore underwear, so we were going through a lot of laundry for the first 3 or 4 days. But once she got it, she really got it. And she was so proud. As were we, obviously.We didn’t wait many days after we introduced her to panties to also introduce her to panties while also wearing her pants. We made sure they were easy to take off so she didn’t have any trouble or frustrations and now around the house we’re just treating it like normal, getting her dressed regularly every day and she has only had one accident since introducing pants. Our first outing since the switch was to my grandparent’s house. We put her in a pull-up on the way there, and changed her once we got to their house but when she saw that she’d have to sit on the big potty, she got scared and wouldn’t go. My grandma suggested that we buy her a portable baby toilet seat so that night we went to Target and let her pick one all on her own. She chose a pink Minnie one, of course, but we didn’t care as long as she used it, and she did! And after we left Target, we took her to get frozen yogurt, explaining to her that it was because she’s such a big girl for going on the potty and not in her panties! I can’t tell if she was happy because we were eating froyo, or because we’d been quarantined for so long.
One of the best progressions we’ve noticed is the whole M&M reward thing. We started to wait for her to ask for them, instead of just presenting them to her after she went on the potty. Some days she’d ask for them every time, other times she’d ask for them a few times a day, and then there were the days where she didn’t ask at all. The M&M bag was in plain sight on our counter, so she knew exactly where they were. So just a few days ago, we decided to put them away and the first day, she noticed they were gone and all day kept asking me, “Where are the M&Ms, Mama?” but I am happy to report that she’s seemed to have forgotten about them and hasn’t back tracked, or acted out, just because she isn’t getting rewarded with chocolate (we still give her LOTS of praise and still sing and dance though)! Go Olivia!
I won’t lie, Dominic and I still put her in pull-ups when we do errands and such, but we make sure to ask her if she has to go, and actually, sometimes she’ll even tell us she has to go before we get the chance to ask her. This has been the hardest for me personally because I really hate public bathrooms. Not enough of them have the paper seat covers, so I’m in the process of trying to teach her to put toilet paper on the seat before going. She’s done really well with this so far. I know that you’re probably wondering “well what about that Minnie potty seat?” Good question! I guess I’m kinda weird when it comes to bringing in items that I know that certain store sells. Like they’ll think I’m stealing it or something. Maybe I’ll have to get over my silly fear for the sake of my daughter!
However, when we know we’re going to somebody’s house, usually my in-laws or my grandparent’s house, we bring the seat.
We know that sooner or later we’re gonna have to just take the plunge and take her out sans pull-ups, but I think we’re both a little scared (of what? Mainly her peeing while she’s in her precious new car seat, really.). Knowing how Olivia is, though, she’d probably surprise us by successfully taking on the challenge. We got a little brave and put her in underwear while she was outside last week when it was almost 60 degrees, so wish us luck as we put our big girl panties on and take Olivia out in her big girl panties!
Also, I was thinking, it’s kind of funny how the “diaper bag” sort of evolves as the baby gets older, or so you think anyway. Because in reality, when you get to the potty training stage, it seems like you’re packing for a newborn again. When she’s first born, you bring an extra of pretty much everything you can think of: clothes, bottles, bibs, diapers, wipes, etc. etc. As she gets older, and doesn’t have blow outs anymore, you can either ditch the diaper bag altogether and just put a few diapers and wipes in your purse, OR, you can share a tote, where you keep some things that are yours and a few things that are hers: a few diapers, wipes, maybe some small toys and snacks.
Now that we’re in the potty training stage? Well, here’s what we keep in our bag: two extra pairs of leggings, two extra pairs of underwear, two extra pairs of socks, some M&Ms (which we’ve just ditched!), some pull-ups, wipes and then on top of that, some snacks and a few small toys. You can imagine how full our little tote is!
I know I’m kind of talking out of order, but honestly these past three weeks have gone by so fast, I guess I should’ve done a better job of writing it down. I can’t believe how far we’ve come with all of this, and how well Olivia is really adapting to stopping what she’s doing to go, or let us know that she has to go, potty.
I guess we’re not so bad at this whole teaching life skills thing after all! ;)
P.S. It seems like she’s a little scared to go #2 in the potty….has anyone else experienced this with their little one?