Every year, Dominic and I come up with a few resolutions that we want to accomplish for the new year. Admittedly, they’re a bit far fetched, so we always end up breaking them, leaving them unaccomplished and just tacked on to the next year’s set of resolutions.
This year, instead of resolutions, I’m opting for some goals instead. The word “goals” sounds a lot less intimidating, don’t you think?
A few of my 2015 goals this year:
1. Live a healthier lifestyle. We started this year off with a bang by jumping right into our second Whole30 and it’s been great. I’ve also begun to practice yoga (my end goal is to be practicing yoga every day) and we’ve been trying to go to bed earlier, too. (Which is making it SO MUCH EASIER to get up in the morning, who knew?! ;)
2. Finish a book. I remember a post I wrote for my 23rd birthday where I wrote about things I wanted to accomplish that 23rd year. One of those things included reading more and I never did. I started to read more than a few times, but I always got distracted. It’s been ages since I’ve read an entire book (not including the children’s books I read on a daily basis, obviously.), and when I first met Dominic, I was reading a new book every week. I really want to go back to that. I haven’t decided what I’m going to start with, but I’ll let you know once I come to a choice!
3. Play more. I always try to sit on the floor with Olivia, really, I do. But then, while I’m sitting there, I start thinking about the other 10 bajillion things I should be doing and I get up and let her play alone. Or, I’m sitting on the floor with her half playing, half on my phone. Either way, she doesn’t have my full attention and I don’t want that to be something she remembers. I want to give her my full attention and realize that the house will get cleaned eventually, I’ll answer those emails eventually, and I can always check my Instagram while she’s taking a nap.
4. Be more patient. This one is mainly directed toward my relationship with Olivia. I really pride myself on the patience I have developed since having her but you guys, three is hard. Some days three is so, so fun, magical even, but also extremely hard. We’re stuck in this “Mama, I can do it myself!” to “MAMA CAN YOU HELP ME I CAN’T DO IT!!!!!!!!!” in about three seconds flat. So in an effort to skip the tantrum, I find myself doing a lot more for her than I care to admit. Finishing puzzles is a great example: I always end up doing the puzzles for her. Whether it’s because she goes so slow (why do toddlers do everything so slow!?), or it’s because I don’t want her to cry about how the pieces just “DON’T FIT, MAMA!”, I never really give her enough time to try and figure it out for herself. But then, last week, I started to let her figure them out for herself and now she is seriously a puzzle pro. The first time it took all morning, but she did it. Now, we do puzzles every morning. I drink my coffee/tea, she drinks her milk and
we she finishes about fifteen 24-piece puzzles in like an hour and a half.
5. Commit to a routine, but leave room for spontaneity. I’m realizing more and more that a routine is exactly what I crave. I like getting up with my husband and starting every morning with some quiet time with just him and more recently, I’ve added a little bit more to my morning routine: once Olivia wakes up, we eat breakfast at the table and do puzzles and play with her toys (see #3 and #4) where before, we used to start the morning off with breakfast on the couch, watching a movie (while I played on my iPad). I would also like to have a routine for the afternoon and evening, too. Like instead of browsing the internet during nap time, I can edit photos or write a post or two. On the other hand, I want to be okay if my whole routine/schedule doesn’t go accordingly every day. I’m kind of the person that’s like “okay, so we have an hour to grocery shop, an hour to do this, two hours to do that and then we have to be back home by this time so we can have dinner at this time.” As much as I really want and love a plan, I really want to go with the flow too. It’s a hard balance to find but Dominic is like that so I know that I can be like that too.
*insert nervous laugh here*
6. Take time for myself. When I even have 10 extra minutes in the shower, I am a better mom. I need to acknowledge that I need a break sometimes, too. Coffee with a girlfriend (or by myself), pedicures with my mother-in-law, or even a nice solo trip to Target really does wonders for this mama. I’m also super excited to start a new series this year on the blog where I talk about simple ways to get a little mom time in more often.
7. Take time for my husband. As much as I need a little alone time for myself, and as much as Dominic definitely needs a little bit of time for himself, we also don’t have a lot of us time either. I don’t mean staying up a little later at night to talk about our days/dreams/goals/fears. I mean full blown, lipstick and heels, let’s go on a damn date and act like the mid 20 year olds we still are. Last year I had a series that was called Dating My Husband that I started but never kept up with. I fully intend to bring that series back again this year. One blogger did an entire year of dates, The Year of Dates, and that’s exactly what I want to do with Dominic this year. I have a few plans/ideas and I can’t wait to write about them!
8. Take more pictures. I used to take so many pictures! Those that have been long time readers no that to be true because my posts are always so damn photo heavy, but I can’t help it! 2014 was a bit of an un-inspirational year but I am very hopeful for 2015 and plan to whip out my camera a lot more often again (I’m also doing the 52 project again this year!). You’ve been warned.
9. Take better care of this blog. I kind of fell off. I read somewhere that 2014 was a bit challenging for a lot of people and I was definitely one of them. 2014 was uninspiring, challenging, and maybe even a bit questionable. When I stopped taking as many pictures, I also stopped writing as much. I love writing and it was such a creative outlet for me when I first started this blog so I am excited to get back to that, with a nice, fresh start. Which reminds me, I really need a blog makeover, any suggestions?!
10. Be more present. I love Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat as much as the next person but sometimes, I am a little too loving toward those apps and I tend to miss out on moments with my family. Instead of enjoying a coffee date or a little trip somewhere, sometimes I tend to be more interested in sharing those moments with the rest of the world instead of just breathing in my family and just taking that moment for us, and not for everyone else.
So here’s to a fantastic year of goal-reaching! What’s on your list for 2015?
*these pictures have nothing to do with this post but I couldn’t help it, I love that face.